8 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN 4 YEARS OF BEDSHARING

By Nina Palmo

  1. It’s safe.

When my oldest was born, we set up a crib right next to my side of the bed. I loved the idea of snuggling up together at night, but I wasn’t sure whether it was safe. I started poring over the research.

One of the best resources I ran across was research by Dr. James McKenna, Director of the Mother-Baby Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame University. I learned that for babies, sleeping within sensory range of their caregivers, meaning that they can experience their sounds, smell, and occasional touches is protective against SIDS. I learned that, as long as some important safety precautions are followed (baby next to breastfeeding mother only, non-smoking family, firm mattress, etc.), bedsharing is just as safe as crib sleeping and safer than solo sleep for babies. When my oldest was 6 months old, we made the transition to full time bedsharing.

  1. It goes hand in hand with breasfeeding.

Nothing makes nighttime nursing easier than bedsharing. In fact, a recent commentary piece in the prestigious academic journal Acta Paediatrica proposed that, “there is no such thing as infant sleep, there is no such thing as breastfeeding, there is only breastsleeping.”

  1. It’s not just for babies.

When we made the transition to full time bedsharing, it was to make nighttime nursing easier so I could get more sleep. We thought that our daughter would soon move to her own bed and room, certainly by age two. Now she’s four and still bedsharing and we love it. Toddlers and preschoolers need a lot of closeness too.

  1. It’s a great way for working parents to re-connect with their children.

I spent about a year at home after each of my two children were born, but then went back to graduate school and later work. Bedsharing provides a wonderful way for parents and kids who are separated during the day to reconnect at night.

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