And maybe that mum who cooked that beautiful organic meal has a passion for food that she is just starting to get back into post-baby. She shouldn’t feel like she can’t share those moments for fear of backlash.
Instead of shaming those perfect moments, we just need to be more aware of the content we consume and how it affects us. We need to debunk the Super Mum persona and strip it away to reveal what it really is: a ton of small wins that millions of mums are proud of. When you think of them as small pieces of someone’s life, not this big overarching #mumgoal, it’s so much easier to stop the comparisons.
We all know what a day in the life of a mum REALLY looks like, so why do we search for validation of it online? We are living it every single day. The only validation we need is from ourselves.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Sometimes there are those holier-than-thou posts that make you want to drop kick the mum that posts them. But those are so easy to spot that you can just chalk them up to a good laugh, knowing mum-karma will surely catch up to them.
But for those other moments, the REAL moments of celebration, I ask that we let those have their place. Because for just a minute, that mum felt like a badass. It’s a time that mums are proud of and want to show the world.
We all know what a day in the life of a mum REALLY looks like, so why do we search for validation of it online? We are living it every single day. The only validation we need is from ourselves.
Search instead for inspiration, not validation.
Andrea Rhoades is the creator of Selfies to Selfless, a site for millennial mums. She is on a mission to empower the newest generation of parents by exploring the unique challenges they face. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter!
