By Jessica Rios
Being a one-child family is rich with depth and adoration for your one precious child. Life this way is often quieter than sibling life, with greater flexibility and of course a little less cash out of the bank.
Homeschooling or unschooling an only child can be marvellous, too. Yet there’s one big challenge I’ve found as a mother who is passionate about self-directed learning and unschooling. Can you guess what it is?
It’s wild that this is tough, really, given that relationships are my top priority in life and always have been.
I’m very good at this part of life, so how on Earth could it be difficult for me to create it with my child?
Already, the social piece of homeschooling is a part-time job. You don’t have school to do this for you, so it’s your job. Add a pandemic with a virus nobody wants to catch. Add wildfires all over our North American coast, with awful air quality that leaves us staying inside. We’re solo a lot of the time. For us, the difference is we live on 90 acres and barely see other kids. I work to create the social beat, and with a pandemic and wildfires it’s far from easy. I feel bad for our daughter, though ultimately, I think she’s OK and I know things will improve in time.
School creates a social container for the child, and that’s big. And it’s usually free of charge!
Still, my passion is big for self-directed learning that is more naturally oriented. So we move on.
For those of you with an only child who are considering homeschooling, I offer this.
Envision where you can live that offers community. It could be that you have next door neighbors who are your friends or family and have their own children. Having children nearby is imperative for a fully healthy only child. It is natural for them to play with other kids regularly.