If you think they’re doing it to you, you’ll just end up feeling more and more of a bad parent because you think your kid is always disrespecting you.
That’s not gonna help the situation.
Your kid is not doing it to you. They are just doing what they are doing.
Your kid didn’t wake up this morning and say, “I’m gonna yell at my mum/dad/parent and treat him/her/them poorly.”
We play mind games with ourselves unknowingly. We wear ourselves down like, “Oh, my, my kid is always doing this to me.”
Then we start judging them. “He/she/they are out of control, he/she/they are this kind of kid…”
Your kid is just yelling.
Your kid is not yelling at you.
He/she/they are just yelling.
And that will help you feel calmer, and less like he/she/they are out of control with his/her/their behaviour.
This change of perspective along with using do-overs can make a whole load of difference.
This is an extract from Lisa Smith’s guide to Peaceful Parenting During Uncertain Times
Lisa Smith is a Mum and Parent Coach who knows the joy of transformation, but really, she helps turn frustrated parents – who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing – into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too!
When she’s not coaching, you’ll most likely find her at a basketball game rooting on her son or travelling somewhere new. She is obsessed with cross-fit, personal development and romance novels. You’ll almost always find her with a Starbucks iced green tea in her hand.
