Your Magic Wand for Less Drama, More Love

3. Don’t try to guide your child when you’re angry.

Is your child acting out? Intervene only to keep everyone safe, and then say “I need to calm down before I speak with you”. Then go calm down and re-centre yourself in your loving vision. If your guidance to your child comes from anger or fear, it will backfire. If it comes from your loving connection with your child, you’ll be creating less drama and more love. Every interaction either strengthens or erodes your relationship.

If your guidance to your child comes from anger or fear, it will backfire. If it comes from your loving connection with your child, you’ll be creating less drama and more love.

4. Take at least one action TODAY to make that loving image happen.

Even a small action moves you in the right direction. Humans connect most quickly through physical touch. Play is also fool-proof. But it doesn’t happen without slowing down, letting go of distractions, and bringing yourself completely into the interaction with your child. Snuggle on the couch, give a foot rub, or start some roughhousing that gets everyone laughing. Encourage sibling bonding with a “kids against parents” pillow fight. (Let the kids win.)

Humans connect most quickly through physical touch.

5. Give yourself a huge hug.

You don’t have to be perfect. You’re a hero just for getting up each morning determined to be the best parent you can be. In fact, accepting and loving yourself might be the best gift you can give your child, because it helps you become more emotionally generous. So hug yourself. Hug your child. And enjoy your magic wand of connection. You’re becoming your child’s fairy godmother or godfather.