Together we realised that the expectations I had on how things “should” be, were completely robbing me of the joy I wanted to feel with my baby.
Whilst I grieved the loss of the life and self I had once known, the deeper, wiser, more real part of me started to flourish. I began to understand that motherhood had not taken from me, it had simply changed my perception of life.
What now stood at my feet, was an opportunity. Where before I felt like I was falling into a hole, now, with a small shift in my awareness, I began to see life through the eyes of grace.
Grace in place of resentment. Grace in place of grief. Grace in place of loneliness.
The unmistakable essence of unconditional love, presence and divine union.
That’s not to say motherhood became easy from that point, we all know that’s NOT how the story ends. I now have three girls and it is a daily practice to choose grace over frustration. And sometimes I nail it, and sometimes I end up in a tear-stained heap.
But one thing is for certain…
The more I practice the things that help me feel aligned with myself and Spirit, the happier I feel – REGARDLESS of what’s going on around me.
The moment I lifted the veil off the expectations I had, my world as I knew it improved.
The instant I rededicated energy to the activities I used to love, like yoga, meditation, sacred dance and my spiritual work, my heart began to flourish.
The second I redefined what freedom meant to me, I began the oh-so-necessary journey back to my most authentic self. And the biggest lesson…I accepted support. I stopped trying to figure it all out in my own head and chose to find a solution to my pain.
So today, dear sisters from the mama-hood, I not only bow to you in deep honour of the path you are walking, but I write to remind you of this simple truth…
The only barrier that exists between you and your happiness is your expectation of how things SHOULD be.
The moment you are willing accept reality as you know it, you begin to take back your power.
For it is in the moment we stop resisting, stop fighting with reality and surrender to what is, that we start to make choices that will change the way we look at things.
Restore your heart to one of gratitude and grace by meeting yourself where you’re at (without judgment) and being courageous enough to make small necessary shifts in the direction of your sense of self.
As the late Wayne Dyer said: “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at, change.”
Kim is a Spiritual teacher, NLP/Hypnosis Coach and mama of 3 girls. As the woman behind the business and movement – Mama Goddess – her mission is to help women find themselves and their inner light, when they need it most. On her website you’ll find out more about the sacred birthing, jewellery and meditation movement for women too…oh and there’s some fabulous freebies you’ll enjoy I’m sure. You can also find her on Facebook.