Listen to Your Kid
Most of the time, things you might perceive as annoying are your toddler asking for attention. Active listening can go a long way. Answering their questions or validating their feelings makes your child feel heard, which can make them less likely to escalate and throw full-on tantrums. Listening also shows emotional regulation, showing your child how to name and manage their feelings or curiosities.
Keep a Predictable Schedule
Knowing when meals, naps and playtimes occur helps toddlers feel secure and reduces tantrums caused by uncertainty. A consistent schedule also helps you anticipate high-stress moments, like pre-nap crankiness, so that you can prepare and respond calmly.
Identify Your Triggers
Understanding what sparks your frustration is key. Is it constant interruptions? Messy rooms? Sleep deprivation? Once you identify your emotional triggers, you can create strategies to manage them. For example, if repeated interruptions frustrate you, have a set of toys or activities ready to occupy your toddler when you need a moment to yourself.
Prioritise Your Mental Health
Parenting is demanding, and it can be easy to ignore your own wellbeing. A 2023 report showed that 61% of UK parents struggle with their mental health. Persistent stress or anxiety can wear down your patience and affect your interactions with your child. Check in with yourself regularly and seek professional support if necessary. Conversations with other parents or your loved ones can provide perspective and reassurance.
Carve Out Some Alone Time
Even a few minutes of alone time can recharge your emotional reserves. Step into another room, make a cup of tea or take a short walk when possible. These small pockets of time help you return to your child calmer and more focused. Simple self-care habits, like listening to music, deep breathing or meditation, can help you calm down and improve your patience.
Finding Calm in Busy Days
Parenting a toddler can test your patience – these bundles of joy also come with surprises, messes and a lot of energy. While some days can feel overwhelming, small strategies like consistent routines and self-care can make a big difference. Embrace the journey and recognise that each day presents an opportunity to grow and connect more deeply with your child.
Jane is the founder and editor-in-chief of Environment.co where she shares practical tips on how to live a greener life.
