Yes, it is inconvenient to me, and yes, it’s annoying and things didn’t go to plan, BUT what really ever goes to plan A with kids? Most of the time I must surrender to ‘Plan B IT’ for my own sanity and for the welfare of my kids.
BUT I HAD A CHOICE. Maybe she was just having a shitty morning… isn’t she entitled to have them? Why am I the only one entitled to a shitty morning?!
We can judge and be so harsh on ourselves, we can push for an outcome from our own agendas, BUT maybe all we can really do is let go and surrender to what is. Maybe once you let go of trying to force the outcome, you feel at peace, and have more mental space, clarity and more room for fun! Don’t we deserve more fun!?
We want our kids to see us, and most certainly hear us after we repeatedly ask them to get dressed, eat their breakfast, brush their teeth, put their shoes on…blah blah blah. We hear ourselves repeatedly like a broken record wanting to be heard…and acknowledged, BUT maybe… just maybe… this is not part of THEIR job description. Maybe they won’t ever appreciate the lengths we go to for them (until they are parents themselves!) and maybe they are not wired (or responsible) to hear our plea! Why should they carry this burden for us?
We can judge and be so harsh on ourselves, we can push for an outcome from our own agendas, BUT maybe all we can really do is let go and surrender to what is.
Maybe they are sent to crack us open, free us from the ‘shoulds’ of life and raise our awareness (in every moment) so we can look within ourselves for the answers and feed ourselves (all by ourselves) the acknowledgment we seek.
How can we expect our kids to be perfect and behave all day long…when we struggle to do so too (though we probably hide it better than they do)?
Don’t let the crazy chaos define you as a mama or your child/ren. Instead learn from it, roll with it and maybe you might, just might, find those crazy chaotic moments fun and funny after all!
All we really want is to be seen. Maybe the more we see and accept our child/ren, exactly the way they are (the good, the bad, the ugly) without it being a reflection of us, we are then given permission to truly see ourselves. Seeing and accepting all sides of ourselves and letting go of the struggle. Seeing the crazy and the chaos in a different light. One that allows us to connect within, to learn to grow and let go of expectation, and the need for our child/ren to fill us up. For we are whole and we are not broken.
Truth is maybe, just one day when our child/ren are all grown up and out of the house, we may miss a little bit of the crazy days like these!
Much love & magic on your parenting journey!
Nina x
If you want to learn more & be a less reactive parent, you can visit ninacruzconsciouscoaching.com, and contact me on Facebook and Instagram. You can also join my Private Facebook Group – ‘Conscious Creators Collective’.
