The people-pleasing will be taking a backseat as well this year. As much as I strive to make everyone in my house and in my extended family happy – I’ve learned a great deal about my emotional limits recently and how I can no longer stretch myself as thin as I used to.
People-pleasing is a disease and I’m determined to stay healthy for myself and also for my family. If I’m saying no to something, it’s because I know that I need to. Being a mother is not just about giving. It’s about knowing how to create individual boundaries for myself and for others within the household.
I’m also ending my war with dinnertime. I don’t like cooking dinner very much but I do it for my family so that they don’t starve. But you know what?? I’ve discovered that my family actually doesn’t think it’s as big of a deal as I do. In fact, I’m now sure it’s only me freaking out about what to make for dinner every night.
Besides that, I give my family much more than just food. I give them my love, my patience, and my dedication. The kids may not adore what I put on the table for dinner some nights but I’m confident that they love how I’m there for them every single day. I know they appreciate that I pick them up from school, that I listen to their problems, and that I talk to them about their day.
These are a few things I’m giving up and getting out of my life this mother’s day.
It’s great to get flowers or a meal out to be appreciated as a mom. But I think that giving up the unhealthy and toxic aspects of my life will do far more for me as a human being, woman, wife, mother and stepmother.
You know that saying, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody’s happy.”?
It’s true.
Originally published HERE. Michelle writes and shares about parenting, step-parenting, society, trends, culture, health, relationships, beauty, and more at her website The Pondering Nook. You can see her featured blogs on The Huffington Post, Stepparent Magazine, PairedLife, Role Reboot & Your Tango, and follow her on Facebook. She is also a co-host at The Broad’s Way Podcast where they discuss similar topics plus much more!
