DISCOMFORT
Uncomfortable conversations can bring up uncomfortable feelings. But if you acknowledge this and choose to move through them knowing that a new sense of being is just around the corner then you will find you don’t fear them as much.
LET GO
Let go of your pre-held beliefs about the word “family” and create your own definition. Real family is inclusive, not exclusive. It is about creating a loving, supportive unit where you uplift and share life with each other, your children and your prospective new partners.
APPRECIATION
Shifting your focus from the negative to the positive and having appreciation and love for the gifts your relationship brought you (i.e. your child) will have you looking at your partner or co-parent in a different light.
VISION
Remind yourself of your why; why is it important to consciously co-parent? Holding tight to the vision of your future rather than clinging to the memory of your past means you will enjoy the present moment so much more.
BIG PICTURE
Remind yourself that there is something more important than what’s going on in your head right now about what is right or wrong, and that how you interact with each other will have a huge impact on your child. Try and put yourself in their shoes and then decide what your next best step should be.
LOVE
What are you modelling for your child about love and forgiveness? What are you teaching others about how you want to be treated? Having unconditional love is difficult for some because it means getting out of their way, but ultimately wanting others to be happy no matter what, gives yourself permission to be happy no matter what.
TIME
Don’t rush the unfolding of this process, take all the time you need to build a strong foundation. When the root is deep there is no reason to fear the wind. There will be more casualties than just you and your partner if you force something that’s not ready; your children, friends and family.
TRUST
Develop your trust muscle…not just in the other person but in yourself; trust that you will do what you say you will do. Trust that you can handle anything that comes your way.
Originally published here
Monique Barry is a business and leadership coach passionate about helping the multi-faceted woman access her full potential, while staying spiritually aligned. She believes we can have it all and wants to be a catalyst for change within yourself and help you to live expansive and empowered lives, supporting you through personal and business transformation. Monique is a Certified Coach, Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, BCom in Marketing and Finance and Masters (GDip) in Accounting. Follow Monique on Facebook and Instagram.
