How Crying Benefits Boys: Strong Minds and Happy Hearts

Crying Helps the Healing Process

Certified relationship coach Chris Armstrong stresses the importance of crying as part of the healing process. 

According to Armstrong:

“Crying is an outlet that has less casualties than isolation, anger or passive aggression. Crying is an instant release mechanism that allows the healing process to begin quicker. When men want to cry but don’t, they are simply trading in that outlet for something else. As a result, moving on from whatever wrought the emotion becomes that much harder. Whether a boy is healing from the intense emotions of a rough day on the playground or a man is crying after a breakup, tears can be quite therapeutic.”

Crying Helps Prevent Mental Disorders

This benefit of crying may seem a bit alarmist at first read; however, Harvard professor William Pollack presented his research at a conference on youth violence prevention hosed by the New York Academy of Sciences.  Pollack presented his case that the anger and disconnect of young boys is at the heart of the increasing diagnoses of ADHD and depression.

The idea that boys should be “tough” and independent (too early) often causes an emotional clog, which can lead to depression, anger, and rage. The solution? Teach your boys how to handle emotions and how to cry. Boys don’t need to “toughen up”. They don’t need to stuff their emotions under a rug.

To those fearful of perpetuating the tea cup generation: Experiencing emotions does not create the tea cup generation. Experiencing emotions is a part of what sets humans apart from the rest of the animal kingdom. When we embrace our emotions and learn to regulate them, life has a new sweetness to it. So the next time, your little boy cries, fight the urge to say “Don’t cry.”

Originally published HERE.

Kathryn is a self-proclaimed book nerd who has a passion for natural parenting and writing. As a homeschooling mother of three, Kathryn understands the dynamics of a busy family life. She is the founder of the Cor Domum community, a mission that guides families through life so that they can parent with joy. Read more at

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