This is an act of self-love that will bring benefits to you and your entire family. Draw that boundary with your children, they will observe and learn to do the same for themselves.
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Practice Four-Square Breathing
When things get stressful, compassion and logical thought become difficult. Four-Square Breathing helps send oxygen to the brain, switching the “reset” button. To practice this, inhale as you count slowly to four. Hold the breath to a count of four, then exhale slowly as you count to four. Hold the breath to a count of four before you inhale again. Repeat for a few rounds and you’ll be amazed at how much calmer you’ll feel.
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Practice gratitude.
Last thing at night, first thing in the morning and any other time of the day, celebrate. Celebrate when things go well and those sweet blissful moments of the day. Focusing on gratitude lowers the stress hormone cortisol and activates the parasympathetic nervous system which is responsible for rest and recuperation.
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Have a dance party in the lounge.
Music and movement can quickly transport you to another world and elevate your mood. Jump around and dance like no one is watching, pay attention to the sensations of your body as you dance. Connect with your children through dance and playfulness.
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Bring mindfulness to common chores.
While taking a shower, vacuuming, driving, or washing the dishes, pay attention to the sensations on your skin, the smells, listen to uplifting music, practice breathing techniques, sing or listen to a guided meditation.
I hope you find these tools useful on your parenting adventures. If we want our children to be more focused, calm, and less overwhelmed by their emotions and life challenges, we can start by cultivating those qualities ourselves. Namaste.
Debora O’Callaghan is a homeschooling mum of a seven-year-old girl, and has been parenting with attachment principles. Passionate about self-growth, Debora is a yoga teacher, massage therapist and acroyoga teacher at Awakening Unity. You can also follow Awakening Unity on Facebook and Instagram. If you are interested in upcoming mama retreats which Debora will be organising, also check out Soul Mama .
