By Tenille Bentley
It happens often when you’re on the phone and at the same time, your child has something they are dying to tell you. You say, “Please wait”. But, all they hear is “Please keep talking”, and they continue to do so.
There are so many parents that dream of having more patient children whether it’s at the dinner table, the grocery store or at the park when playing with friends. Waiting patiently is an extremely important skill to learn as a child and children who grow up into patient adults have better mental and emotional health.
Practice makes progress
You can help your children develop patience by practising and reinforcing the skill. Try to perform activities that demonstrate patience like waiting for their turn in a game or marking the calendar for a special occasion, even waiting in the car for a little moment before you jump out and get to the next activity. All of these opportunities will help them learn more about patience.
Celebrate small wins
When your child doesn’t interrupt you during your telephone conversations or when they wait for their turn in a game, be sure to acknowledge and encourage them. Be sure to celebrate their small wins to reinforce being patient in situations. You could say, “I appreciate you giving me that extra time” or “I appreciate you waiting for your turn” to show your appreciation.
When your child doesn’t interrupt you during your telephone conversations or when they wait for their turn in a game, be sure to acknowledge and encourage them.
Be a good role model
The only way you can raise a calm and patient child is by demonstrating patience yourself. Even when it’s terribly challenging to do so, remember that your children are watching you and learning from you. This might mean deciding to ‘practise’ your calm breath when you are feeling angry, and sharing this out loud that this is what you are attempting to do, so your child understands and can copy this. And, most importantly, be patient with your own children, which will help them learn how to be patient with others.