Now when we go to the playground she runs up to every child there and asks them to play. The change is like night and day.
So what’s my point here?
My point is that ever since dealing with my child’s behavioral challenges, I often find myself running into other parents experiencing the same issue. They’re scared and they’re worried because their kid is “too shy” or “won’t play with others.” I feel nothing but empathy because I’ve been there.
They’re scared and they’re worried because their kid is “too shy” or “won’t play with others.” I feel nothing but empathy because I’ve been there.
The main reason these parents feel so much anxiety is not just because it’s incredibly hard dealing with a small child who won’t leave your side or make friends, but because other people in their lives – including their own friends and family members – have shamed them for their child’s behavior.
They’ve had to hear comments like, “What’s wrong with him – is that normal? Maybe you should have that checked out.”
Quite bluntly, to those who make comments like this – maybe it’s none of your business and perhaps you should keep those thoughts to yourself.
The lesson is that you truly never know what a parent is going through privately.
The lesson is that you truly never know what a parent is going through privately. You need to remember that every parent has problems and they’re already dealing with a hell of a lot already without your unwanted input piled on top.
Now, if a parent asks you for advice – by all means have at it. Otherwise just zip it.
In general, most parents are fully aware if their child is not behaving the way they “should” or not developing in a “normal” way and – most likely – they’re already on top of trying to figure out a solution. Most likely, they’re losing sleep over it many a night.
In my case, my daughter was able to recover from her “shyness” and move on. Some kids don’t. Some kids do have problems that may need treatment.
But that’s none of my business.
Luckily for me, we just needed a playground and some time.
Originally published HERE. Michelle writes and shares about parenting, step-parenting, society, trends, culture, health, relationships, beauty, and more at her website The Pondering Nook. You can see her featured blogs on The Huffington Post, Stepparent Magazine, PairedLife, Role Reboot & Your Tango, and follow her on Facebook. She is also a co-host at The Broad’s Way Podcast where they discuss similar topics plus much more!
