So the next time your child is having a meltdown try this…
- Let them have it. Allow them to feel.
- Give their energy 100% permission to be where it is. Even if you don’t like it.
- And give yourself 100% permission to have your emotions too by saying hello to any frustration, overwhelm, guilt, shame, etc… that comes up.
- Then feel your feet on the ground and take a few deep breaths as you allow yourself to be fully present to the situation and what’s happening.
You’ll notice your child’s emotions change on their own when you acknowledge them instead of trying to control, fight or resist it.
Emotion is energy just trying to move itself. And by giving it permission to be there, more space is created for both of you to feel validated and heard without judgment.
It may not always look pretty or feel good when it’s happening, yet it is a unique way of learning how to feel and express energy through the body.
Because underneath it all, your child’s Spirit just wants to be heard and acknowledged, no matter how it comes out.
And that takes compassion, love and a new way of understanding yourself and your child from the inside out so that who they really are can show up and brilliantly be.
For more helpful tips to nurture yourself and your child more fully, get your free Miracles of Kindness handout at www.miraclesofkindness.com and discover 10 simple ways to be more kind and loving with yourself and your child.
Alison Elsberry is the founder of Temple of Mary, providing enlightening educational resources to help women and children embody their Spirit and nurture their greatest gifts. She has over 17 years of experience as a pediatric occupational therapist and holistic health specialist working with moms, babies and children. And loves helping you recognize your child’s behaviors as clues to their most meaningful spiritual gifts and talents. Visit www.AlisonElsberry.com to learn more.
