My client’s response:
“Lisa…it’s been 24hrs and everything has shifted. We sat down to discuss the schedule and they were actually excited about a schedule. They really like knowing what’s going to happen and when. It’s been quiet all morning, no fighting, no yelling. They know the schedule, they are embracing it and they just check in on the hour as they transition to the next thing. So simple, but SO POWERFUL! Thank you. And as a work from home entrepreneur, I am getting things done with ease!
Also, I talked to them about how I was feeling when I was sick and how they didn’t seem to care. They both apologised, and while I know this is going to be an ongoing work in progress, I’m giving them some space and understanding to learn from it without me holding a grudge, and also giving myself some empathy that I’m not failing as a parent because my kids don’t act the way I want them to in every situation.
Thank you so much for your guidance, you’re like a parent whisperer, but with a much louder voice 😉 You’ve had a massive impact on me and my family, and we are eternally grateful.
Much love to you,
Rick”
Want less stress? Put a plan in place that meets the needs of both yourself and your kids.
In talking with Rick, I could quickly see that this was a case of feelings and needs not getting met..both his and his kids. The kids weren’t sure of how to manage their time and my guess is they were feeling overwhelmed with too many options. This happens a lot to kids of all ages, likely more than you might guess, and it can be directly attributed to their brain development, or in this case, lack thereof.
This is an extract from Lisa Smith’s guide to Peaceful Parenting During Uncertain Times.
Lisa Smith is a Mum and Parent Coach who knows the joy of transformation, but really, she helps turn frustrated parents — who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing — into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too!
When she’s not coaching, you’ll most likely find her at a basketball game rooting on her son or travelling somewhere new. She is obsessed with cross-fit, personal development and romance novels. You’ll almost always find her with a Starbuck’s iced green tea in her hand
