I thought at this point despite the freshness of the event that the children should be told immediately. This was probably not the best choice as it was so raw for me and this was a way of trying to release the emotions and deal with it quicker on my behalf. This was, looking back in hindsight, not the best way to handle the situation.
Emotions can be a deeply confusing issue with people going many different ways, the top two being prone to over the top outburst, and emotional shutdown.
How as the person on the outside do you support and be there for them?
Well, from a personal view, I am inclined to listen and be there when they are in need of help or support. This can be awkward especially when you are not really sure of what type of emotional person they are or if you have never seen them in an emotionally charged situation.
People need support when a major event like this takes place and some need you just to be there while others need a far more in-depth type of support.
For all the women out there that have been through this (they are many) we need to be as compassionate to our partners, as they are to us. We need to support them they way they support us.
We are not alone in our grief, in this major loss in our family. Our husbands and partners are front and center with us and need support as well.
Megen Hibbins, the free-spirited hippy mother, writer, homeschooler, traveller, off grid liver, blogger and vlogger. Living totally off-grid in the Australian bush with beekeeper husband and children aged 7, 6, 5 and 2 that are homeschooled. Megen is a passionate writer, vlogger, homeschool advocate and lifestyle freedom and earth-loving activist. She writes twice a week on her blog whilst working with her husband and children on the things that need doing. To contact her head to her blog at www.yogahippy.com.au or subscribe to the Yoga Hippies YouTube channel at www.youtube.com/yogahippies
