Build a routine
Help your child to build a pattern of expectation around separation with a predictable leaving routine – like reading one story before you go or helping them ease into their first play activity. Children find routines comforting so find one that works for you and your relationship.
Allow home comforts
Encourage children to take their own familiar or special possessions with them into care – a favourite cuddly, book or toy. Sometimes something that reminds them of the parent they are saying goodbye to, even if for only half a day, can help them to know the parent will return. If my son was upset I’d give him one of my “special items” – like a photo, a piece of jewellery, or a scarf to look after while I’m at work. It allowed him to still feel connected to me when I wasn’t there.
If you are the new person providing care, don’t forget the parents
Remember parents also need emotional support when leaving their child. Communication is key here – a text message to let them know their child has settled, photos and detailed accounts of their child’s day will all help to support parents with their own feelings around leaving their child.
During periods of separation, children need to know their new environment is secure and can be trusted. This trust is fostered through relationships, having their needs met sensitively and consistently and being shown genuine affection and attention. With no more than four children in care at any one time, PORSE educators have all day to spend with your child – giving them the security of always having a go-to person.
